At what point do you stop "nudging" your children? Or, do you ever stop?
I have an almost 17-year old son...this son has had to be "nudged", or "pushed", pretty much his entire life. Any new situation - any new adventure - he has had to be nudged...whether its the first day of school, riding a roller coaster, or trying out for a baseball team. In most every case, after he's been nudged, he's had a fantastic time. He just needs that initial "push" - that reassurance that it will be okay - that little boost of self-confidence that he sorely lacks.
Earlier this week, he didn't get nudged, and consequently, made a monumental decision that will definitely have far-reaching repercussions.... He was at his dad's for the weekend when this occurred, and when I questioned his dad on why he didn't "nudge" our son into making the RIGHT decision, his dad said, "He's almost 17 years old - he's an adult. I'm not nudging him anymore. It's his life."
And hence, the question of the day...at what point do you stop nudging your children?
I believe in nudging - no matter how old you are. I nudge my spouse; he nudges me back; and it's all good. I don't mind being pushed sometimes - it has helped me grow as a person. And I most certainly believe that my children should be nudged - or pushed - if they still live under my roof. Heck, I nudge the adult kids who no longer live with us - but I cleverly disguise the nudging as suggestions....You know, as in, "Honey, have you ever thought about doing THIS?" And I think the nudging has helped them....
So, I'm just curious as to what other parents out there think...To nudge? Or not to nudge?
That is the question...